Perspective Shift

This expression is not meant to simply be associated with sex, but rather, anything within the realm of creating pleasure in ones mind. When you do something, be it eating junk food, playing video games, or having sex, a neurochemical is triggered in your mind, this neurochemical is called dopamine, and it activates what’s referred to as the “award center” of the mind.

The peak of orgasm, the absolute height of sexual pleasure, is also the cause for the greatest amount of dopamine to be released into the brain, by legal means. This affect also has a crashing aftermath, like any form of mood altering drug or situation. What goes up must come down, and thus, when an individual has been dosed with large amounts of dopamine, they too experience a monumental drop in attitude, emotional state, and generally anything associated with ones mood.

Such scenarios can result in uncomfortable relationships, as, once the urge for dopamine is met; the general craving is reduced or temporarily eliminated. This can make sexual attraction to ones partner reach a monumental low during the process of recovering from such a dosage. However, if, particularly a male, is exposed to another female, this urge for dopamine can instantly rise again. This is because the male figure is biologically geared towards procreation. This drop in desire with ones partner can also be contributed to the neurochemical prolactin, which is secreted directly following orgasm, or more specifically, following the release of dopamine. This agent serves the purpose of stopping the desire for dopamine. In essence, it is somewhat attempting to keep the dopamine levels of the body at a normal state. This is not always the case, however.

These dopamine fixes can be gained through other means as well, which has been previously mentioned. Sporadic events, often experienced by athletes, gamblers, over eaters, etc… All experience temporary fixes in dopamine. Such events enable an individual to temporarily have their entire focus on the moment, though; they attain this temporary fix through means that are more detrimental in the long run.

The mind also posses various neurochemical’s that band together, forming a kind of “bonding hormone.” This hormone is referred to as oxytocin and is composed of adrenaline and dopamine, they mix together, and without them, our ability to mentally experience “love” would not exist, at least, not from a scientific standpoint. Oxytocin enables us to feel attached and connected to another individual on a neurochemical level. It is associated with the phenomena of becoming “addicted” in a sense, to a spouse. Feeling attached to everything from their appearance, to their voice or the smell of their hair. Over time, with the help of oxytocin, to you, you’re spouse actually begins to appear _more_ attractive than previously thought.

This chemical bond is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship. Being more susceptible to this chemical bond has far more affects on your physical being and mental states than one would imagine. Such affects range from a calmer state of mind, and having that calming affect to those around you, living a healthier life. Patients suffering from the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) have been found to have their longevity increased when they have companionship due to this neurochemical.

This chemical not only greatly aids us in health, but it decreases cravings and increases sexual gratification. Couples who are more intimately connected on a higher level than simply lusting for a dopamine fix find that having sex can be just as, if not more gratifying without orgasm if they are intimately connected on this higher level. Oxytocin is also not a chemical which demands a constant incoming flow of met desires to generate, unlike dopamine which generally needs increased dosages to yield the same pleasurable results. Oxytocin levels remain high when the constant fluxuations of dopamine levels associated with the seemingly never ending dopamine rollercoaster, stop, or slow down.

This means that the less you rush to meet the needs of your body craving a dopamine fix, the better off, and more pleasure out of life you will receive in the long run. This leads us to say that the general perception of sexuality is fundamentally flawed. Lust should not be associated with what “sexuality” is based on; rather, lust is simply a craving of the body seeking dopamine for instant gratification, which serves no greater benefits in the long run. Sexuality, companionship, and specifically sex can be very rewarding experiences to help you grow as a more loving, caring, and spiritual being. Simply staying the course to seek instant gratification and temporary relief will only result in your being a very unhappy individual, as, your moods and mind will never be at a constant state of calm. Calm and focus of the mind are very essential keys to any esortic path, be it that of a path of mysticism, or magic and its subcategories.

Also remember that this dopamine roller coaster is experienced by other means than just sex. Other addictions such as gambling and sugar addictions, among many other things that give you gratification due to dopamine are also associated with it, and therefore should be done in moderation, if at all.